How do I choose between 2 men? Both of whom I love dearly for different reasons.?

Girl you need to straighten out your life first .. i mean you have kids to handle , yourself to takecare . I dont think you are ready for this relationship . both guys sounds like a looser anyway. you dont need that in your life. There will be someone out there foryou , you knight and shining armour will come . its definietly not these 2 guys .. Proceed on life take care of yourself if you have a great self esteem you will meet the right man and move on .